How to Handle Your Child’s Lack of Playing Time in Sports


When it comes to playing time in sports, many parents are stuck in the habit of living vicariously through their children. Or they measure their value as a parent by how their child performs. Many want their child to have positive experiences, be high performers, and be happy and they equate a positive athletic experience with playing time.

Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset:

I did not want my son to grow up and become entitled. So, although I was disappointed that he did not play much either, I was excited to use this as a teaching opportunity. It was a great chance to teach him to develop a growth mindset.

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Conversation with my son:

September 24, 2018:

Chase: Dad, I did not play much in the game today.

June 26, 2019

Flag Football All-Star Game 6/26/19


Life is hard, and we should prepare our children for the tough times that await them. Sports are a great training ground for teaching them the survival skills needed to navigate the challenging waters of life.



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Drew Torres

Drew Torres


PE teacher and former Varsity Boys Basketball Coach at Freedom High School. Founder of Revision Training.